I(30f) have been dating a guy(35m) whom I get to know through a dating app 2 years ago. He is the kind of ideal guy that every girl wants – humourous, good looking and works as an SWE earning $8k/mth.
He is also very caring and I must say he is really great on bed.
However, even after 2 years, our relationship has never been official. He has never introduced me to his friends and parents. What I find even more puzzling is that our dates are always on weekday nights, as he reserves his weekends are for his studies (self study coding) and parents. Am I not part of his family? I have always asked him for an explanation but he will brush me off by saying I should be mature and understand his priorities.
I am enjoying the time spent with him and want to settle down quickly as I’m already entering my early thirties. Should I move on and not waste my youth on him?
Here are what netizens think:
- You sound really naive. Either you don’t have much dating experience or you choose to close your eyes to all the red flags that you are just someone he sleeps with with no commitment.
- 2 yrs of “dating” but never been out on wkends b4 is already a big red flag.Men who are serious with you, will definitely rush you to meet their parents.Those couldn’t be bothered type, are definitely not into marriage at all.Move on~~
- Seriously for the past 2 years? Omg! When i read the meet up only on weekdays night. He is most probably he has a family, a married man. For me, if a relationship over 3 months, and i still don’t know his friends and family, i will not continue and stay.Please find out soon, ask him to bring you to see his parents. So, whether to stay or leave is your choice.
- He is telling her wife and children the same thing. I have to work late on the weekdays to complete my project so that I can spend time with you during the weekends.