AITA for not being generous?
Met a girl a couple of weeks back, been hanging out quite a fair bit.
Each and every outing consists of me paying the bill for her shopping sprees, albeit inexpensive. (less than $1,000 in total).
She never once offered to go dutch, and I never brought up the subject.
Recently I had the chance for a sleepover at a budget hotel and nothing happened as she candidly expressed disinterest to do the deed.
AITA for not wanting to continue to pay for her expenses and draw a distance? It all started a couple of weeks ago when I met this girl. We hit it off and started hanging out quite a fair bit. It was a nice change of pace, as I had been single for some time. I was really enjoying getting to know her and thought things were going great.
At first, I didn’t really think much of it when she asked me to pay for her shopping sprees. They weren’t too expensive so I figured why not? I thought it was just a nice way of showing that I cared. But after a while, I started to realize that she was expecting me to pay for her every time we went out. It started to add up and I was starting to worry that I was just being taken advantage of.
I was starting to feel a little uncomfortable with the situation, but I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it and make things awkward. I was hoping that she would eventually offer to go Dutch, but she never did. I was too embarrassed to bring it up, so I just kept paying.
Things got even worse when we were talking about having a sleepover at a budget hotel. She expressed disinterest, and I could tell that she was just stringing me along. I was starting to realize that she was just using me for free things, and that I was never going to get anything out of our relationship.
At this point, I was done. I was tired of paying for her all the time and not getting anything in return. I decided to draw a distance and make it clear to her that I wasn’t going to be taken advantage of anymore.
This has left me wondering: AITA for not wanting to continue to pay for her expenses and draw a distance? After everything, I’m still not sure. On one hand, I don’t think it was wrong to not want to be taken advantage of. On the other hand, I feel like I should have been more generous. I guess it’s a matter of opinion.
All I know is that I’m not going to be taken advantage of anymore. I’m going to be more mindful of who I’m spending my time and money with in the future. I’ve learned my lesson and I’m not going to let it happen again.