The guy I am dating is a lot wealthier than me. I feel insecure about it and I am pretending to be rich too. I don’t know if he will leave after knowing the truth.
I met really amazing man, I had a crush on him after our second date. He seems to really like me too. We went on 6 dates only but things are getting more serious between us. Also he is mindblowing in bed.
The problem is he earns much more than me. I have a ok job but my earnings are average. He must think I am rich too because I told him I have a good job and I avoid talking about money generally.
He invited me twice to a really expensive restaurant, I didn’t want to pay so much so when the bill arrived I let him pay without saying anything.
I invited him for drinks and cooked for him at home twice, I try to be generous without spending much. But he wants to go to expensive restaurants again or on trips and sleep in really expensive hotels.
I guess it’s time I should tell him the truth I can’t afford it? I will be really sad to lose him. His ex gf was rich too so he probably prefers it.
I was thinking of looking for a better paid job or a way to make more money somehow but it is too stressful for me right now.
- don’t pretend to be something you’re not, tell him asap and see how he reacts ^
- You never told him that you were rich, but there could be a chance that he already knows.
He usually pays for you anyways, maybe he just wants to spoil you but since all these luxuries are making you uncomfortable, ask him to slow down/take it easy.
- I grew up in upper-upper middle class.
I had a thing where I was horrible with my emotions and expressing them. My love language was spending money on women.
But even past that, I didn’t mind spending the money bc I liked them so much I just wanted them to experience cool stuff.
But I NEVER, not even once, cared about how much money they had or came from.
There’s a good chance he doesn’t either. But there’s also a slim chance he is ignorant and thinks you make more and is that shallow. But I’m not seeing that second option from your post but TONS of context missing so I’m only going off what I have.
Tell the truth .