I (F21) am dating M(21) who is a drop out
We have been together 2 years in a stable relationship. But we had our toxic on-and-off breakups for 2 years before ending it officially, then getting back together in a stable relationship (now). So that explains why my family is not having a really good impression of him. We have been dating secretly for 2 years now. Both our families know we are dating, just that they don’t know its the same partner.
I have not introduced him to my family and I’m scared to do so cos idk how and what kind of response I’m gonna get. I honestly get stressed when I think about ‘what if my family does not like him’? I don’t know what I will do then, because I can’t abandon my family but I really do not want to leave him.
Another problem that comes with this is that he is a drop out and has no intention to earn money for now. He is focusing on his dreams, and aspirations and I fully support that. But I can’t help and wonder what happens if I marry him. What about our financial issues? I am going to graduate in about 1.5 years and my starting pay is low- in fact, this industry is known for being underpaid. So I can’t depend on him to pay for housing, food, car etc. He said that if his dreams dont work in 10(?) years, he will start looking for a job. I am not sure how to feel about that- he does not have any working experience and does not even have a degree.
Idk how to feel about this whole situation, but I do know that I want to work it out with him. Hopefully anyone with similar experience can share?
Update:
Hi 🙂 First of all, thank you all for the comments and messages- I was not expecting so many people to respond and give insight. I have read most of the comments (appreciate all, either good or nasty) and I understand the shared consensus. I would like to clarify some things before I get new messages and comments 🙂
Is he financially dependent on me. He is not financially dependent on me now. I have seen several comments mentioning “leeching off” and would like to address that. We go on dates occasionally and always we pay alternatively- meaning he pays for one full date and I pay the next. I have offered to pay for some of his equipment (used for chasing his dream) and he has turned me down multiple times.
His dream. Everyone is asking about his dream to have a clearer picture. Out of privacy reasons, I will not be stating his dream specifically. All I can say is that he wants to be the best in an Olympic sport (in fact, he wants to be a national representative).
His reason for not working. His reason is that the time spent on working, can be spent on chasing his dream and working on it. He wants to not ‘half-ass’ his effort spend on chasing his dream. He wants to put full effort and time into his dream.
I just would like to clarify any miscomm and would love to hear from you all. Am intending to talk with him this Sat and will update here again 🙂