A girl shared how her boyfriend wants to sleep with her but she doesn’t want to, and that they used to have intercourse every week but now it has turned to every few weeks and now more than a month.
Here is the story:
“Just want to know where to draw the line?
My boyfriend and I are in uni year 1 and we have been rather busy with our lives.. on top of that I have my internship as well and he’s working part-time outside.
However… because we have so little time together, we often eat out and he would drive me to explore new places and that would be our little date. We are just like a normal couple with normal love life.
What’s not so normal with us is that my bf has an extremely high s-x drive.. while on the other hand I’m the one with the disgustingly low s-x drive but I can’t help it. I would often ask myself if I’m as-xual but no..
if I were to drink I would want to make out with someone & maybe hook up once in a blue moon (but not when I’m in a relationship of course) but to him, I’m just.. no.
I love him but I’m just not s**ually attracted to him I guess… It is especially so that I’m someone pro-choice. I have a life to live and I’m just 20…
I don’t want to be tied down with a baby so fast. I have yet to travel the world (well… due to covid) and I wish to have the chance to at least visit some countries before I settle down. I had a pregnancy scare about 2 months ago and I told him that if anything happens, I’ll be going for abortion as I’m not financially stable.
I do not wish to bring an innocent life to the world & throw them to my parents / their grandparents because I’m incapable of giving them a stable decent childhood in their early years (also I won’t be there for them </3)
He told me I was immature and I will ‘grow out of this idea once I really bear a child’ but no.. I really do not wish to bring a child to the world just yet because I’m not ready. you can tell me ‘no one is ever ready for a child’ I agree. but not when I won’t be there when they mutter their ‘ mama ‘ or ‘ papa ‘ or that I have to throw them to their grandparents or that I’m not financially stable enough (to even support myself in Uni ??? )
Anyways.. because of this, we fought (eventually my crimson wave came) but I was utterly turned off by him.. we used to be able to do it every week (at least) then it turned into every few weeks, then now its almost been a month and a half since we last did the ‘deed’ (heard from my friends its actually not normal?) He told me I was being unfair to his feelings and I’m invalidating them but I just don’t feel like having s** with him anymore for fear of pregnancy scare and I don’t know… just don’t feel like doing it ;-; he is someone that cannot live without s-xual intimacy, I told him that if he wants he can get his needs elsewhere.. but he doesn’t want to
What else can I do to heighten my s**ual drive.. sometimes I feel bad for him but I’m just not.. you know turned on ;(I even questioned if we are really compatible”
Editor’s note: Wait… You let him fulfil his needs ELSEWHERE? What did I just read…