A girl recently posted on Facebook after she met a guy on a dating app but she did not want to go into a relationship with him as he loses control of himself when he’s drunk. He would start making out with random girls when he gets drunk.
Here is the full story.
How do you deal with someone who loses control when he’s drunk and is it worth it to continue? So I met this guy from a dating app a few months back and we’ve gone out quite a lot of times, but we’re still not officially together because I get insecure when it comes to some of his habits that put me off. One of these would be the loss of self-control when he drinks. I get that we are both still technically single as we have not decided on commiting to each other yet (I want to, but it’s hard). However, despite telling me that he loves me and misses me and wants to see me and all, he got drunk one night and ended up making out with a girl he’s not even interested in. Honestly, that really really hurt. I just don’t get how someone can go around kissing other girls when there’s a person in their heart already? And that’s why I’m starting to doubt his love for me. Please let me know if you think this is an acceptable behaviour because of the ‘single’ status or if it feels wrong to you too.
For more context, he told me one day that both of them were awkward. When I asked if it was because they did something, he lied and said no. The second time, he eventually told me that he kissed her on her head and that’s it. That was still not the whole truth omg. But the third time he spilled it and finally told me that they made out… Non-stop. He had the audacity to also say that she was the best kisser and that he had kissed more than 10 girls before, which was way more than the initial number he told me last time. He has also lost count on how many he had kissed when he’s drunk too.
I feel so hurt. Sometimes, I do think that it’s because he’s still single during all those times and even for the latest one, which is ‘excusable’. But it’s hard to imagine if this will go on in the future as well if we get together. Maybe it’s because we are not in the ‘exclusively dating’ phase. We used to be, and I had always been there for him, been nice to him, but he then told me that we should just be friends because he doesn’t want to waste my time (he thinks I deserve better?) and said That was true love. Do you let someone go just like that when you truly love them? Sorry for digressing, but anyway because of this, he went back to his dating apps to meet girls for fun – while still saying he loves me and that he can’t get over me too. And then that making out incident happened. Will this man ever make up his mind?