At age 21 I felt my heart fully shatter for the first time. My first love of 2 years left me for someone else. He told me I don’t turn him on and he don’t love me anymore. He told me the other girl is so much hotter and has a sexier body. She was willing to do more so he picked her. Basically everything he said to me had hurt me, I felt stabs of pain drove through my heart for days. I’ve never felt so numb before in my life. We dated for over 18 month before I gave myself to him. I did everything that he wanted because I love him so much. I wanted him as much as he wanted me then. He was my first everything. I thought he was the one. He was so patient, loving and kind to me. Now I wonder were there others when we were seeing each other. Was anything real between us? How did I not see this coming?
How can I be on top of the world with him then and feel like I’m in hell now? I feel so worthless now. I yearn for him and I hate him. Why did he do this to me…… was our love ever real? Now I see that he changed his profile pic to him and that girl. My heart has gone numb. I never mattered to him? He got over me so quickly? My friends told me to ignore him as he’s not worth it.
How can I? How did the love vanish overnight? How do I move on? The pain is unbearable.
Here are what netizens think:
- If I had read correctly, you have yourself to him after 18 mths, he broke up with you after 24 mths. His love didn’t vanish overnight la. It was gone long before. The moment the other girl appeared. I would also boldly assume that he achieved his goal.with you, from the way you mentioned that “the girl was willing to do more, blah blah”. Get a grip and block him. Hugs.
- I think everyone would have gone through the pain of getting dumped at least once in their lifetime. The circumstances will vary but the feeling still sucks no matter what. So give yourself a lot of time to recover. I went through one similar to your experience when I was 23. Two decades later I cannot even remember his name. Lmao. So yes you will forget all of this one day.
- Not sure his age but assuming both are still young, he’ll jump to a better ship and will keep doing that. You on the other hand value love and felt betrayed by his love only to find someone else who is physically more attractive. Take it as a lesson and dont give all your love again just because he treats you like his one and only but ur still in a relationship phase. Time to stop thinking about him period.
- I understand what it’s like to feel the stab wounds– I am sorry that you’re going through this level of trauma. You have to understand that mostly it’s not you, moral fault lies with the abuser. You didn’t deserve to be told you weren’t as good as another girl. You didn’t deserve to be discarded in such an abrupt and cruel manner. You deserve a better partner who will love you wholeheartedly and want to build and sustain a lifetime relationship with you. The how is not easy, let time heal, if you realise that certain things have therapeutic value engage more in them. Could be anything e.g. being in natural surroundings, spending time with friends, travelling, a spa day etc. Take care and I sincerely hope you feel better progressively, one day you’ll be able to look back and say I survived the trauma.