Boyfriend won’t get over the fact that I queefed
I (20f) queefed for the first time in doggy with my boyfriend (19m) days ago
It was a mortifying sound, and I’ve been very embarrassed ever since especially because I’m quite a reserved and serious person
In the moment we managed to shake it off and the next day I apologised again and told him I’m sorry
But now he’s been continually on edge and sometimes burst out laughing without telling me what he’s laughing about. It’s pretty evident what. And I’m sure he means no harm but it’s really tearing down my self esteem and whether he still finds me attractive
Kinda unsure how to approach this it’s making me feel so insecure. I was feeling OK until he indirectly brought it up again
We’re on the same course at uni and I’m scared he’ll tell anyone. It makes me want to cry. He knows he has something on me now and he’s lowkey exploiting it
I didn’t even want to do the doggy position but he kept asking and I was so drunk. So it’s quite unfair especially after I didn’t even want to
- Eh. Queefing is a normal and natural part of intimacy, maybe some times more than others. Not something to feel ashamed about. It happens.
- When that happens the first time with my GF we were both in tears laughing. It was a ginormous fart from her p—y, louder and flappier than I could have ever done it with my butt.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. Yes, the sound can be super funny if you are in a relaxed mood. But intercourse isn’t the time for being reserved and serious.
Queefing happens most of the time when we do doggy and we just shrug it off now. Ok, maybe I giggle a bit sometimes.
- So let’s rewind. He’s shoving something into you repeatedly. Pushing air with it. And the air released due to pressure and he’s upset about it?
- Here a different perspective.
Honestly, you’re the one having the hard time accepting this whole situation, not him. He’s fine with it, he laughs the situation off, he didn’t even say anything bad about it, you’re kinda just making assumptions. You’re embarrassed about something that’s so natural and common.
You really don’t have to worry about him telling others, this isn’t exactly something you can make fun of a woman for. What’s he gonna say to his friends? My gf queefed? They will just look at him weird and say “well yeah, my gf sometimes does that too” It’s not a thing to be mocked tbh.