I’m finding it so hard to try and get along with my brother’s gf. She is 2 years older than me and she keep calling me xmm instead of my name which I find its so disrespectful. She doesn’t have a stable job and have only worked part time jobs as far as I’m aware. Her last part time job was in a clothing shop but it closed down because of covid and she hasn’t been working since.
I know my brother has been giving her an allowance as both her parents have retired. She also like to poke her nose into our family matters. Once she asked me how much I earn in front of everyone and I refused to say. I find her offensive and I don’t know what my brother sees in her.
She doesn’t wear feminine clothes and has a boy’s hairstyle. She looks like a butch to me. I never told my brother that I dislike his gf but I think my behavior shows as I don’t talk much when she comes over or I will hide in my room for hours.
My parents say there is a chance my brother may marry this girl so I should try to get along with her. How? When she is so mean towards me?! I find I am more socially exposed than her as I work in many different places because of my job.
And I cannot stand it when she try to talk down to me and try to educate me about my job which she knows nothing of. Very often she will talk to me about her old school days which I find she’s so out of touch and outdated in life as I worked for more than 5 years and don’t think of school days anymore unlike her.
The breaking point for me is when I found out she entered my room when I wasn’t home, went through my things and ‘borrowed’ one of my branded handbag. I was furious.
I told my brother but he said she is just borrowing it and will return me soon. She even told me I have so many bags and she only took one bag. She don’t see the fuss?!!!!! I lost it. I used my entire vocabulary and demanded her to return my bag. I said there is covid, makes no sense to share personal use items too. She tried to play victim and cried to my brother.
Now everyone thinks I’m the bad guy for being so petty over a bag when she is my future sister in law. This is so frustrating. I don’t think I’m in the wrong. And I have no idea how to make things better when I’m so disgusted with her behavior.