Whenever I try to speak to my colleagues about the problems of women, most of them just brush it off. I’m sick of hearing that women have it easier than men because almost every single day I feel so uncomfortable near them.
Sometimes is the older dude who stares at me in the bus or some random guy who stops me on the street, trying to get to know me. Other times I know I’m being followed by some weird dude. Or if I need some help with any small thing, I feel that they think I owe them so much in return.
In all of my relationships, I’ve felt extremely replaceable. I’m so sick of emtpy promises, one guy told me he had serious thoughts about me, talking about meeting my parents, going on trips with my family…and a few days after I got woken up by his girlfriend,(that I knew nothing of), messaging me like crazy. I’ve been cheated on a lot, I’ve been made to feel worthless by past partners and in general, I feel like men treat me like I am way waaay below them. I did a lot of things for my partners, but they didn’t really show any appreciation.
I would call myself a feminist, I always feel very good and safe near women that I even don’t know that well, but sometimes I feel really bad and unsafe near the men that I know.
My question is…how can I be taken seriously and respected? How can I feel safe? Is it possible to trust men again after all this experiences? I still want to have my own family one day, but I also want to be treated the way all women should be treated: with appreciation, esteem and politeness.
Here are what netizens think:
- Ditch the boyfriends for awhile. Take Tae Kwon Do and continue until you can break a board with your hand and your foot or start training to either walk or run a marathon. Do something physical that requires your persistence, goal setting and perseverance — while also improving your physical well being. Or, start seeing a therapist for your low self esteem. Any of these idea will help you feel better about yourself from the inside out.
- How about changing to another job since you colleagues are not treating u like an equal
- Meet new people and find someone who treats you respect.