Realistic advice for soon-to-be-married
Hi all, just want some realistic advice here.
I’m in a 6 years relationship with my fiancé and we are getting married soon.
So far he has been hanging out with my family more regularly (around once a week), and my family loves him. I try to invite him for any events/celebrations happening at my house. On the other hand, I seldom get to hang out with his family (much less to be invited to his family gatherings), I see them maybe around once/twice a year?
Somehow I used to think this situation would improve when we get married (since it’s legally into their family already?) but today I start to think it will continue to be status quo if I don’t sound it out. I don’t want to self invite to his family gatherings unless he really want me there. I mean even a casual lunch (where he will already be eating with his fam) also ok, don’t even need to be a celebration to be hanging out tgt.
Is it realistic that a married couple would be spending more time together with either families or do the individuals still go about to do their own things with their own families without inviting their partners along?
Here are what netizens think:
- You can ask him why he dont bring u along and if his parents asked about u why ure not there. Maybe theres a reason. Listen first, dont quarrel. Better get this off ur chest cuz sometimes it can be easily misunderstood.
- Next time you probably want more time away from both side of the families.
- Eh. Well. I would say my partner’s mom likes hosting (according to him) and my parents find it a “hassle” to have people over coz they feel they need to make the house presentable and need to behave in a certain way when guests are over. so y’know, I’ve definitely spent more time with his parents than he has mine.
- For after marriage, it depends on a lot of things I guess? If at least one person’s family “demands” to have dinner with their married child 3 times a week and the partner have other things to do, then it’s likely that the partner won’t show up for all the dinners. If it’s one a week or every 2 weeks, it makes sense that the couple joins the meals together.