I’ve never “come” when being intimate with my bf, I don’t like intercourse because of it. It’s causing stress in relationship.
Penetrative intercourse feels like being at the dentist: I just wait for it to be over and hope it doesn’t hurts too much.
Because it does hurt sometimes, but most of the time I just feel “nothing”. I think I felt some pleasure a few times, but I never “came” that way, and usually I just want it to be over.
I enjoy foreplay and oral, I need to point this out. I like when these happen. But not “the whole package”.
It’s a huge turn off for me when penetration is about to happen. My boyfriend is unhappy, he admitted it.
The same thing happened with my exes so it’s not a particular guy issue. My bf wants to try different positions, and to get intimate more often.
But I don’t want that. I’m usually not in the mood, and if I am I really don’t want penetration to be part of it.
I wish it were different for me, but I don’t know how to make it happen. I do feel like I’m missing out on something.
I’ve been to therapy and it did not help (5 months, give or take). My hormones are okay and apparently physically I’m also okay.
Longer foreplay doesn’t help. Lube use doesn’t matter, sometimes it just hurts anyway, and I still feel nothing good from it. I don’t know what to do…