Lied about his age found out he’s 23 years older
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How do I confront him?? I gave him multiple chances to come clean and he kept denying it. I had the chance to look at his IC while he was gone and saw his actual age, I wasn’t shocked but I’m just pissed how he keeps lying when he obviously knows I know something is up.
Edit- I also found makeup in his bag so this confirmed everything I already thought
I also don’t mind being with older men I prefer it but I don’t know how I feel about a man lying like this..
Netizens’ comments
- Ok. What is your age. Age he tells you. And his actual age?
- (OP) I just turned 21. He tells me he’s 30. His IC says 43
- Ok 100% red flag. Why are you even trying to make it work. Run
- (OP) I just turned 21. He tells me he’s 30. His IC says 43
- Um please run. I’m 43, too, and the idea of dating a 21 year old, no matter how lovely a person, is squicky to me. No matter how mature you are, you are still barely an adult and in completely different life spaces. Someone my age who wants someone young, impressionable, and easy to manipulate is a problem. And then he lied on top of it. Abort mission.
- OK, here’s the deal:
You don’t mind dating older people. His age wouldn’t have necessarily been a deal breaker. HOWEVER, he still chose to lie about this to you and has gone out of his way to hide this. Not to mention that it’s 13 years older than what he was saying initially. If he’s going to lie about this, he will lie about other things – and likely has already. He’s already showing that he doesn’t have your best interests in mind, only his.
The fact that you don’t see this as an immediate deal breaker is also concerning, as this should be an automatic deal breaker. People who would abuse, manipulate, and exploit you will see this as an opportunity to hurt you. They’ll assume – possibly rightfully so – that you will put up with awful behavior because you either don’t know any better or because you won’t think you deserve better, if not a bit of both.
I personally don’t think it’s great to date with such a huge age gap, but if you do, go in with extreme caution. You only get one life and it’s not worth wasting your youth on creeps. These types of people are present in any dating population and age range, but they will be more numerous and visible when it comes to age gaps because it’s so ripe for exploitation.