I had been casually dating the same guy for a few months and thought things were going well. We had been out on a few dates, but he was never very forthcoming with details about his life.
When I asked him where he worked, he would simply say that he was self-employed. I thought it was strange, but I didn’t push it as I figured he would tell me when he was ready.
Then one day, I received a text from a friend who had seen my boyfriend at a host bar. In case you don’t know, host bars are places where men are paid to entertain women. He was working as a host, essentially a gigolo.
At first, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I had been dating this guy for a few months and I thought he was a decent person. I was devastated. I felt betrayed and angry. How could he be so deceptive?
I confronted my boyfriend about it and he admitted it was true. He told me he had been doing it for a few months to make extra money. He said he didn’t think it was a big deal and he thought I would be ok with it.
I was not ok with it. I was hurt and angry. I felt like he had been using me. It seemed like he was only dating me to satisfy his material needs. I told him I needed some space and we haven’t talked since then.
I’m still trying to process what happened. I’m still mad at him, but I can also see his side of the story. He was trying to make ends meet and he thought I would be ok with it. I can understand that, but it still doesn’t excuse how he deceived me.
It’s been a few weeks since this happened and I’m still trying to figure out what to do. I don’t know if I can forgive him or if I even want to try. All I can do is take some time to process my emotions and decide what to do next.
Overall, this has been a difficult experience for me. I’m still trying to make sense of it all and decide what to do. It’s been a tough few weeks, but I’m trying to focus on taking care of myself and figuring out what’s best for me.