My mum revealed that I’m not my dads child and it’s ruined my relationship with everyone
My (15m) mum said she had to “come clean” and “couldn’t live a lie anymore” and that I wasn’t my dads kid. She said she cheated on him with her ex and has been since today.
They’re divorcing and my mum has since moved in with her ex. My siblings can’t look me in the eye anymore and my dad is just ignoring me.
I hate her tbh. Why does my mums screw up have to cause me to suffer? I’m pretty sure my dad and siblings half blame me for everything anyways.
- I’m so sorry.
You mum is incredibly selfish and has handled this terribly.
Have you spoken to your dad about this? You’ll both be reeling from the revelation and it will be a while before any of this feels somewhat normal but I hope you’ll be able to recover your relationship.
It will be difficult while you all come to terms with this. Your dad will be dealing with the betrayel of your mum’s choices and the end of his marriage.
Your siblings too will be processing the end of family life as they know it.
But you’re not to blame for any of this. You’re a victim of your mother’s lies just as much as your dad is. And your siblings.
You’re still the same person you always were. The man who loved you and raised you is still your dad.
- Your dad is likely as blown over as you are.
Presuming he’s previously been a good dad, he will figure out that he loves you regardless and will stand by you.
He’s brought you up, he’s loved you, done all the things a dad does with you. He’s your dad.
You are still you, you are the product of how you were brought up. And that’s your dad as well as your mom.
Your siblings are still your siblings too. It just takes a while to figure out what truths are when something like this happens.
Try to stay positive, tell your dad you know this is difficult but you need to talk to him when he’s ready to do so. It’s difficult for him to adult at the moment.
Stay strong, stay solid, keep on doing the things that are important to you and your well-being. You’ll get there.
May the road rise with you.