A woman has shared a story about her boyfriend who she labelled him as someone who is from a slightly average or poorer background.
According to her, she did not mind about his family background but there is one thing she doesn’t like about is to have to spend time with him at his place. She then made a comparison between his house and hers saying that she has to sleep on the floor on Malam mattress with him whereas they could have the comfort of a queen-size bed if they were over her place.
However, her boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable to be at her place as he is constantly feeling uncomfortable and he was intimidated by her dad. She then thinks that her boyfriend should deal with the intimidate issue so both of them could stay at her place in comfort.
In her Post:
“Hi everyone, I was hoping for your opinions on this. My bf and I are from different economic backgrounds. I’m from an upper-middle-class family, whereas he’s from a slightly average to a poorer one. I’ve never minded nor asked him to buy any expensive things for me. When we go out, we usually take turns paying etc.
The part where we disagree is who’s house to spend time at. When I’m at his place, I’d have to share a single sized Malam mattress with him on the floor. When I use my com or anything, there is no table or chair for me to sit at so I sit on the floor while he sits at his table on a chair. I have to share the kitchen toilet which is always wet (which I feel is a little gross), with his whole family and I feel so pai seh every time I go cos his dad is always sitting outside the toilet smoking/chilling.
At my house, we’ve a queen sized bed, my room has an ensuite toilet and hardly anyone is ever home. There are two tables and adequate chairs for both of us to sit at. But he feels uncomfortable there cos he is intimidated by my dad. So far I’ve tried to adapt to staying at his place more, but there are things we can’t agree on such as I don’t like his mum’s cooking, so I buy food then he says it’s inconsiderate of me to take up space in the fridge if I store food there too long. There are three fridges in my house with ample space, and even at his house, my things take up less than 10% of the fridge.
I know it might come across as spoilt, but is it wrong for me to feel unhappy or like he doesn’t value my comfort or feelings? Guys, would you be ok letting your gf sleep on the floor constantly knowing she is uncomfortable? I’ve even offered to pay for his new mattress but he drags his feet over the issue so often. He is currently working so I feel he can afford to buy a new one but is too lazy.
We both live quite far apart and he doesn’t like going out much, so we usually stay home together, thus meeting in the middle isn’t an option. I wish he would get over his intimidation issues with my dad or adapt to staying at my place more so we can both be comfortable. I have tried to stay at his place all this time and barely complained but I feel like my effort hasn’t been appreciated.“
