Im 22 and I played sports in school and was relatively fit. I’m still fairly in shape, but once I hit 20 years old I just gained 20 kg like immediately. I’m 160cm and fluctuated between 40-50kg and now I’m about 50-60kg after joining the working society.
There was not a huge change in diet or lifestyle (maybe slightly less active due to COVID). All the weight for the most part went to my widening hips, bigger top, and lower stomach. There are definitely some new stretch marks with this weight gain.
Im having a lot of trouble accepting this new body of mine. I definitely look more womanly and far less like a teen. It’s just tough for me to see such rapid change, or maybe to see change at all. It weird because I never really even notice things like this in people around me.
I don’t really think I look bad or anything, just different and it’s been harder than I’d like to admit. I can’t decide if I want to diet and hit the gym harder to try to get my old body back or if I should accept this and see it as a part of life (as I imagine I will feel this way about my physical appearance plenty in the future).
But I go to a point I feel unhealthy and I’m afraid of illness and I already tried dieting and working out but nothing seems to be working.
I tried getting into the dating scene but I seem to be constantly rejected due to my appearence and I think its because of my fat stomach who is putting a lot of guys off, my arms are like thicker than the arms of average guys.
I don’t know what I’m asking for here, maybe just some insight, advice, or words of encouragement. Anything really.
Thanks.