I’ve went on a few dates with this guy, and he’s genuinely a sweet and considerate person. However, I’m starting to feel a bit overwhelmed by the number of gifts he gives me. Please don’t get me wrong, I truly appreciate his generosity, but I’m not accustomed to receiving gifts from people outside my family. I’d prefer to see the money put towards a good cause or an experience we could share.
When we go out, he consistently chooses high-end restaurants where the bills can easily reach a couple of hundred bucks. I’m not someone with extravagant tastes in food, and I’d be just as happy dining at a more budget-friendly place. The constant extravagance feels unnecessary to me. Additionally, he frequently travels for work and brings back souvenirs from every country he visits. It’s evident that he’s a generous person who expresses his affection through gift-giving, but I lean more toward practicality. I’ve already got a bunch of expensive stuff I received from my fam that’s just collecting dust in my closet, and some leather goods are starting to show their age because I hardly use them.
While I’m completely comfortable receiving gifts from my fam, I tend to feel pressured or like I owe someone a favor when it comes from anyone else. I genuinely appreciate his thoughtful act but I am not exactly comfortable with it. How can I navigate this situation tactfully?
Here are what netizens think:
- Open your mouth and tell him la! You don’t say, don’t reject of course he will think that way works so he just keeps doing it because you didn’t say anything… Men are not all mind readers, tell us, don’t assume we will pick up all the subtle stuff…
- FIRST THINGS FIRST, INTRO HIM TO ME. Next, the things you dont want can bless other low income families. But seriously your priority is intro him to me.
- Give him some small practical presents … or some functional stuff that’s less than $10. Tell him … I think such gifts are great, don’t burden the recipient. And if they don’t suit u, u can easily gift someone else. — ending line, next time if u really want to give me presents, try sourcing for x … also also I think it’s fun to eat subway and McDonalds occasionally too. That being u liked such stuff and not being a hypocrite to say fine / exp dinning and gift is not what u want.