I am confused and I need help to understand this situation I’m in.
So I have a female friend, (I’ll call her Mary for reference), she and I are pretty close. Long ago, she confessed to me that she liked me.
Unfortunately I don’t feel the same towards her, but I told her that that doesn’t mean we can’t be close friends as we already are. She said it’s okay, and she understands that. No big deal.
About 4 months after, she got a bf. I’m happy for her and it shows that she got over her feelings towards me. We’re still friends then. Literally everyday, she always talk about her bf, like how sweet, nice, loyal, trustworthy, etc he is.
I simply just listen cause hey why not get to know this bf of hers. I even met him and he’s a great guy.
One day, Mary started to ignore me everywhere. From texting to seeing me in real life, like if she saw me she’ll immediately avoid me.
At first, I thought, maybe her bf didn’t want me and her to be close, which is understandable really. But why now instead of before? So I managed to confront her and ask if it’s me who did something wrong or maybe the bf didn’t want us to be friends anymore.
Apparently, it’s neither. She said “I think I’m losing you as a close friend ever since I found out that you have a gf”. I’m like….what gf? I’m not with anyone. She said that she respects my “relationship” and she felt “sad and really hurt” to “lose me”. I don’t… I don’t understand?
So apparently there’s a rumor that I have a gf, but that’s not true at all. Mary found out and she decided to keep her distance immediately.
But my question is…even if the rumor is true, why does Mary felt hurt? Why does she need to keep her distance like that? She didn’t even bother asking me if the rumors are true.
I mean, when she got a bf, she just went on all about him all day long, and I have no complaints. But even if it’s true that I have a gf, won’t she want to know more about her as she did to me?
One of Mary’s bestfriend came to me and told me that Mary cried whole night long after finding out about that rumor that I’m with someone.
But… Why is she sad? Isn’t she supposed to be happy if I’m actually with someone?
So.. What’s going on with her? I’m confused please help.