A girl shared her situation and story online and asks if there is anyone similar to her who is going to get married soon but does not want to address her in laws the same way as her husband does.
She says that her in laws are very demanding and traditional and have been rude to her parents and herself during the wedding preparations and therefore there is some unhappiness amongst the parents.
She is also worried that she will end up in the same situation as her friend who only gets to visit her own parents once in a blue moon due to pressure from her in laws.
Here is the story (quoted)
‘Just curious, for those who do not get along or are on bad terms with their in laws, do you greet them ‘Pa’ and ‘Ma’ or what do you address them as?
I’m getting married next month and i really cannot see myself calling them the same way as i do to my parents. My in laws are very traditional and demanding people so it’s pretty much impossible for me to get close to them. They have been rude to my parents and i several times especially during the wedding prep so my parents are not particularly fond of them as well.
Also, how often do you guys visit your in laws? On instances when you are busy with work and other commitments, is it appropriate to get your husband to visit by himself?
I have a girl friend who ended up only visiting her parents once a month because her in laws intentionally take up too much of her time and throw the “嫁出去的女人就像泼出去的水” card whenever she wants to spend more time with her parents I really do not wish to end up like her.’
Editor’s notes: The Chinese phrase loosely translates to a married woman is like water that is poured away, referencing to a lady that has been married out cannot be taken back. The phrase is commonly heard in local dramas
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