The physical and sexual abuse took me more than a month to recover from. I had vaginal bleeding for weeks while also needing to nurse the UTI he transmitted. I have nightmares almost every day and I confided in only one friend regarding my experience. Subsequently, I reached out to one of his exes to enquire if he had ever done any of the sorts to her. She told me that he did not, and urged me to report it to the police.
The Police are aware of this incident and told me they would conduct all the investigations necessary. However, it has been three months and I have not received any status update from them. Whenever I dialled the 10, They would say that investigation are confidential and they are not allowed to share any information with me, even though I was the victim.
Though I’ve unfollowed him on social media, I saw from his friends that he continues to wander around freely, even going out with new female dates, leading me to wonder if the Police had been doing anything at all these past months. I live every day in uncertainty that I would bump into him by accident, and that he might do worse to me if he saw me again.
1 was devastated as I thought our feelings were mutual. I would never have envisioned him being capable of such acts at all. By sharing my experience on social media, I hope it can provide an unknowing woman with the knowledge of what kind of person he can be. I have always advocated for safe spaces, be it in workplace settings or social media platforms. I stand to gain nothing from speaking out, except humiliation, being the subject of gossip, and the possible backlash.
But if putting my vulnerability out here can prevent another person from getting hurt, then I think I have served my purpose. And I hope that this gives others like me the courage to share their experiences too, or at least some solace that they are not alone. 1 am fighting for myself, and I am also fighting for you.