I was working in a small firm while waiting to go to uni. I was getting close to this boy who was interning there.
We would text almost every night for a few hours. For a few months. Not flirty conversation but just getting to know each other more in depth kind of conversation. We often ate lunch together, just the two of us.
Of all the topics we talked about, I didn’t tell him what course i applied for in uni, it was one of the more popular courses overseas and i didn’t think i could get in. Anyway when i finally got the offer, I excitedly told him about my good news. He didn’t seem very excited for me and he wasn’t very talkative for the rest of the day. Even worse, he started avoiding me. He stopped initiating text with me ever since that day. during lunch time, he would go out of his way to ask more people to join the two of us for lunch (he didn’t do that before).
I was really hurt as i thought that we were getting closer. But suddenly he was trying to create as much distance between the two of us. i thought i said something wrong that offended him. But after thinking long and hard i wonder was it because of my uni application.
Eventually, my last day came and i told him how i felt about him. As expected, he rejected me. Saying stuff like he doesn’t want a relationship. And i should find someone better than him in my uni course.
Despite him saying that, i couldn’t help but wonder. Did he really not have any feelings towards me? Did i imagine those feelings? Am i delusional?
It doesn’t help that his “loss if interest” was immediately after i told him about my uni application. I wonder if he feels “inferior” or something? Or was it because i am going overseas? If i am not going to that course would he have said yes to me? I guess i will never find out the answer because we cant go back in time.
Here are what netizens think:
It doesn’t matter whether he had feeling for you or not, bec he rejected your feeling already.Both of you were just in the stage of getting to know each other, so both are free to say yes or no.Please get ready for your future–your study oversea. Tremendous opportunities out there, both relationship, friendship and job.Young lady…our feelings are temporary. This internship and brief feeling chapters are over. Pack your luggage and move on.Always be positive. Your soulmate is not here yet. Believe me…you will find the better one in the future. WHY? Bec when you grow up and hv more experience, you will understand yourself and know what kind of person/partner/lover…you want to have better. Everyone in this world gets disappointed once about love/relationship. That’s why we call it puppy love. Cute for a little while. Burden for a long time if you choose the wrong one. Good luck with your journey
This is what it feels like to be young and in loveApparently the feelings are mutual but distance r/s are often challenging. At least get closure and go out of your way to have an open and honest conversation with him. You dont want to bring any excess emotional baggage overseas
Most people don’t want to have a 3-4 year long distance relationship. Better to suffer now by distancing yourself than later.