A guy shared a story of how his fiancée and her were going through a list of who to invite to their wedding and she actually invited two guys which she has slept with before to the wedding.
The guy claims that he does not care about the guys who were before him and chose to be ignorant of his fiancée’s past intimate life but now that he knows he is feeling very uneasy about it.
He is now asking the internet for advice on what should he do.
Here is the story
“So my fiancée and I are currently going through the process of planning out who we are inviting to our wedding.
My fiancée is inviting 2 guy friends of hers that she hooked up with at the same time. One of these guys is in her bridal party. Now I’m not an idiot or anything and I’m not obsessed with her past. I’m a believer of ignorance is bliss.
However, now that I know, I’m not ignorant about it anymore.
I found out because one of my friends girlfriend is helping us with planning. This girl apparently knew about the guys and told my friend. He then told me. I thought he was just disturbing me and I didn’t believe him, then I mentioned it to my fiancée and she said it was true.
I didn’t interrogate her, I mentioned it as a casual remark and she admitted to it and got mad at her friend.
So after some thinking I decided I wasn’t comfortable having those guys at our wedding. I get that it happened before we met and has really no effect on our relationship, but I’m just not comfortable with having two guys that entered the woman I’m about to marry at the wedding.
I’m not judging her, but I’m not comfortable with it and I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I’d never invite an ex fling because she doesn’t need to be there.
So one of the guys is a good friend of hers and was going to be a bridesman and my fiancée got upset with me. She told me I was being insecure and it’s not fair for her to not have her friends on her wedding day.
I told her it’s just as much my wedding day as it is hers and considering how accommodating I’ve been to her demands for an ideal wedding, it’s kinda selfish for her to not be willing to be accommodating of one request.
I don’t think I’d feel comfortable saying my vows when directly behind my wife to be is a guy who slept with her.
It’s just gross and I don’t like it.
What should I do?”
Editor’s comments: Invite two of your flings to your wedding also?
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