Mother asking me (25F) to buy her expensive items
Recently started working (1+ year ago) Mom keeps asking me to buy her expensive items (e.g IPhone, holidays, restaurant meals) she is quite a spendthrift and once racked up $10k in credit card bills and barely has any savings (less then $20k).
I’m quite a thrifty person in comparison (buy hawker meals, take public transport)
I don’t give her allowance but I put aside money ($300/month) for parents into an index funds account as a safety net for their retirement.
It’s been a point of tension between us because she feels like I’m not giving her money, but I’m pretty sure it’ll be spent asap.
Am I wrong for saving the money for her? Or is it her “right” as a parent to get allowance from me to “repay” her back?
I’m not sure if I’m the only one facing this issue? How would you guys react??
- Communicate it and voice out your concern. If she wants allowance, she can, however when she use finish cannot ask for more.
- communicate it. yes she’s ur parent but it sounds like she wants you to fund her lifestyle, and no offence she can’t over use the fact that you’re making money because she raised you when you were a child and provided necessities , that’s her job as a mother.
I’m sure you love her but do communicate this and don’t let the tension fester bc it’ll get worse . What’s she been doing w the $300 you put aside for them? Or you can just get her ONE of the things she’s asked for, and for the rest she can save up for those items with the allowance u give her.
I’m not working, not even close but i know for a fact that lack of communication and festered unresolved tension can and will eventually hugely strain or break the relationship . Apologies if i sounded harsh. in the end you know ur mother best. Best wishes