Me (23M) and my gf (21F) have entered an open relationship, but I can’t find a partner and it’s ruined my self esteem.
A few months ago my gf said she wanted to open up our relationship for some casual partners. I was very reluctant at first, but she eventually convinced me to give it a try.
Since then she has been quickly able to be intimate with other people. However I have not been able to find anyone to have a causal relationship with.
It’s making me feel awful about my self, as it seems like no one wants me. I feel like I must be ugly or undesirable and it’s generally making me feel like a loser who can’t attract anyone, while meanwhile my GF has found it incredibly easy to meet new partners quickly.
Has anyone been in a similar situation before and have some advice? 😅
This is all very new to me and I want to find a way to increase my self esteem.
It genuinely sounds like your girlfriend wanted to sleep with other people but didn’t want to feel bad.
I personally would cut my losses and take this as a learning experience but it you truly believe an open relationship from the age of 23 can turn into an open marriage and a subsequent great life together, then by all means stick it out.
Also, it sounds like she had some people in mind beforehand.