I just got dumped by my boyfriend because I lost a lot of weight, and he explained that it was because he likes big and beautiful women (BBW).
I met my ex-boyfriend when we were both 18 years old, was about to start an internship and he was currently working at a supermarket and we just had a connection. At the time i was overweight at over 100Kg, it was hard to breathe, walk or do any activity without feeling extremely tired and sweating almost instantly. Also i couldn’t lay on my back as my own weight wouldn’t let me breathe.
He still would often tell me how sexy and beautiful i was and that was all i needed back then.
He was also overweight at about 150-175 Kg, and i didn’t care, i just loved his how he made me laugh and made me feel.
Things started changing about 1 year ago when we were 21 and i started to loose weight and looking back i see how the more weight i loose the more he would “avoid me”
I went from over 100 kg to 58 kg,so needed to buy new clothes as mine were now all baggy and my pants would fall off my body. When i happily showed my clothes he started saying how “weird” it was for me to buy and wear clothes that seem to only fit kids. That hurted but took it as a joke.
Some time after i bough a fanny pack and he said it was “gross” that i have to set it in the smallest adjust to feel comfortable wearing it, still took it as a joke.
The last few months we were barely talking or seing eachother, he would blame his work but stopped sending me his schedule as he used to for me to plan time for us…
Finally about one week ago i confronted him and said he just wasn’t attracted to me anymore and that he hadn’t been for some time and that’s when it all made sense.
He has always been attracted to BBW so he wasn’t happy when i lost weight and just lied saying he still loved me and…we even talked of getting married so i guess he lied about that as well.
It’s hard to think that once i shared everything with him and now all that link us is our shared Spotify account…
If you read all of this, thank you for bearing with me. Might not seem much for most but i just feel destroyed now and it will be very difficult for this to heal.