Hi, I’m not sure if I’m even posting this to the right place or how to do this exactly but anyways I’m here because last night I was kind of taken aback by my date.
We met on a dating app and have been texting for a few weeks but made last minute plans to get a drink last night. So we got a few drinks and then he asked to go to my car.
I figured he wanted to kiss so I said yes. He was such a gentleman. He opened the door for me to the bar and to my car which I thought was so sweet (most ppl don’t open car doors on dates anymore).
So we started making out in the car but it was soft and gentle, then he starts biting. After a few minutes, he asks can we drive somewhere else.
It’s close to my house so we went to a park I know close by. So we get to the park and start making out again…then I climbed on top of his lap and sat on him while we kissed.
It started getting a little rough with lip biting and light choking. Then he lightly taps my face on my cheek with his finger tips and I remember thinking “that was so soft. He better keep it that way”.
Then all of a sudden out of nowhere when I stop kissing him and look up at him, he slaps me hard. I was so shocked I didn’t know what to do.
Then he did it again but even harder. I was honestly scared. He was so gentle at first and was so delicate with me, licking and kissing everywhere so passionately, then all of the sudden “SMACK”.
I understand this is like something that he is into and I didn’t know what to say after. I’ve never had that happen before and I don’t think I liked it.
Before he did that, he whispered “you’re safe” during the choking (which I do like) and maybe the soft taps were a warning that he was about to really slap me but I was really caught off guard.
I thought maybe if someone were ever to do that to me, they would ask before or wouldn’t do it so hard. I mean, that was one of the hardest smacks I’ve ever had (I’ve only ever been slapped on the bum which that’s saying something bc slaps on the bum go pretty hard).
I don’t know if I should just embrace the 50-shades or obviously tell him I didn’t like that, but my biggest concern is that he may end up physically attacking me.
I just found this very odd because we never discussed it beforehand and this was our first time meeting. Very bold of him I thought.