A girl shared how she met a guy online and they started talking and flirting with each other, but she recently found out that he was actually married and is looking for an affair.
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How common is cheating/ infidelity in relationships and marriages? How to know what your partner is really thinking or doing outside of the relationship without infringing his/ her personal space?
I (24F, single) consider myself as an average person, and I have a fair mix of female and male friends because I am friendly and outgoing. I also enjoy talking to and meeting new people.
Recently I have been using an online chatting platform and began talking to a guy. We chatted quite a lot and found out that we shared similar interests and worldviews. I was drawn to him and felt he was different from other guys who have previously expressed their interest in me. I would even consider being in a relationship with him after knowing him better. As time passed, we became more comfortable with each other, showing care for each other and also flirted a bit.
However, a few days ago, I came across his social media page and realised he was married! (He is much older than me). I was horrified and felt betrayed as he didn’t previously mention he was married despite me asking. And when I clarified with him about it, he told me he was looking for something along the lines of an affair (!!). I was really shocked and didn’t expect it as he is in a prestigious career and a high-ranking position.
Since then, I chatted less with him and he says we are just friends when I asked him his intentions for talking to me. Is what he’s doing counted as cheating and are such occurrences common? I have never thought about and will never mess with others’ marriages. But my hope for finding a loyal partner has declined and I don’t know if I can trust guys that easily anymore! How to find out what a partner is doing outside of the relationship while giving him/ her the personal space?