I get interested too quickly
I (21F) get obsessed (not sure if it’s the right word – I’ll elaborate more below) with any guy that shows the slightest interest me and I don’t know how to stop it. This may not be directly linked to a relationship I am in atm, but it influences my interactions and I would like some advice on how to stop, please.
So, whenever I start talking to a guy/ I like a guy or they show some interest in me, I start living my day in their gaze almost and they take up a lot (if not all) of mental estate.
Even after meeting once, afterwards I’ll constantly think about my interactions with them, what had happened and what future ones could look like. And then when I get ghosted (which has happened a lot this year 😅), I ruminate over what I might have did wrong or how I could salvage it – even if we only met up like twice.
Whenever I get close to a connection, it completely takes over my life and how I view myself and honestly it is quite exhausting and influences my relationships with myself and others…
Has anyone experienced this or have some tips on how to move away from this unhealthy pattern? I did face some abandonment as a child from both my parents and while I have a decent relationship with my parents now, could this still be influencing how I view relationships? In general I am level-headed and cool, but in relationships I just seem to completely flip the cup 🫣.