GIRL ONLY IN HER MID-20S COMPLAINS THAT HER BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS RUNNING OUT

How are women in their mid 20s meeting guys to date or marry?

I genuinely need advice on this. I have a small group of friends who are pretty introverted. So there goes my chance of meeting people through friends. Workplace is mostly filled with ppl who are married.

I tried dating apps and it’s very overwhelming. Plenty of matches but the convo leads to nowhere or I just get uncomfortable meeting someone irl. So I’ve given up on that after a few months.

I like being single now but I don’t wanna be single forever. and the damn biological clock is stressing me out.

Netizens’ comments

1. I feel that for someone so afraid to even meet someone irl, going for groups etc won’t be helpful. I feel that most people join those not necessarily with dating in mind so it requires a lot of signalling to get to a dating outcome.
   Apps are still best. Lower the stakes. If the conversation leads to him asking you out, say yes to an errand date, ask him to go along (like buying a shirt / gift for friend, not like go post office and reveal personal details kinda errand). At least you did something in the process. And if a convo can happen you can get some coffee and see if you can talk more.
2. “ The key thing to realize is that friends and new SO will not fall from the sky. You’ll need to actively go out and find/meet new people.
   You can’t hide behind “oh but i’m introvert!” as an excuse.
   A positive development i’ve observed is that more people are realising this situation of high levels of loneliness and isolation faced by young adults these days. An increasing number of speed dating/friending events are being organized each week and they are either free or have a small participation fee to cover the logistics.
   Highly encourage you to attend those. I personally try to attend 1 such event every 2 weeks. “
3. Comeon… you are looking for a husband and you want to stay shy about meeting and dating?? You gotta do some self-change 1st mdm. You want something in this life, you gotta go and get it.
4. It might be a little embarrassing but you can always ask if your friends know anyone who’s also single & they think might click with you, or go for those neighbourhood events/gatherings and try & meet new people
5. Knowing what I know today, if I were in your position, I wouldn’t worry so much about it. Something happens when you reach your thirties, an awakening perhaps. You realize and understand what you want and start to not tolerate the things you don’t want.
   If that doesn’t assuage your fears, pick up a hobby that gets you out of the house. Or if you have a hobby, see if there are meetups related to it. Or start one. The key to meeting people is… well meeting people.
   One other thing you should think about. If you’re used to your single life as it is now, consider whether you are ready to let go of some of it. Example: My wife and I are both a bit introverted. Our single lives mostly involved a simple pattern: work -> game -> sleep -> repeat. When we got together (and even more so when we our daughter came into the picture), we found we needed to let go of our old ways and make more time for each other.
   I hope this helps.