Should I be embarrassed about this
I (25F) have a friend (27/28M) who I’ve hooked up with off & on for a few years. We hooked up tonight & spontaneously decided to do it from the back (I have done a–l numerous times, however this was my first time doing it with this individual) and about 5 minutes in he asks if I pooped on him.
I said I don’t know & he pulls out & tells me I did & then goes to wash it off & I ask if he’s done for now & he says yes & heads out.
He then texts me a while later & asks if I wanted to help him get hard a gain (he texted me “that s— turned me off”) & asks if I want him to come back & help him get hard again in so we can finish.
I say no not tonight & he heads out.
I’ve been having a— regularly for years & have only had a few messes but the guys have honestly never mentioned it, I only knew it happened from seeing it when cleaning up after.
So being that this is the first time anyone has ever mentioned it to me it has me feeling a little embarrassed& not wanting to see him again out of shame. Please help 🙁
- It’s an occupational hazard and he should have known that ahead of time. Was this his first time doing it ever?
- It‘s perfectly normal to get a little messy every now and then when you do something like this. I mean if he is disgusted by that he shouldn’t do it in the first place. There’s absolutely no reason to feel embarrassed about this. I mean what where his expectations, that women always do a cleansing before they have intercourse to be prepared for a possible session. I one always would have to do that beforehand it totally would kill the moment and the spontaneity.
- He sounds terrible, leaving you like that in the middle fo the act, then talking to you rudely. He should be the one who feels shame. The correct thing to do would have been to pull out, wash off, come back to bed, say it doesn’t matter, ask you what YOU need to feel comfortable, oblige.