I have an 18y/o cat Misty, I’ve had her for most of my life and she helped me overcome many things such as my parent’s divorce, coming out, my mom’s death and many more. She’s precious to me and I know she doesn’t have much time left so I go out of my way to spoil her every single day.
2 years ago I got into a relationship with my bf, James knew I was a massive cat fan and although he didn’t share my enthusiasm for cats she didn’t mind it.
Last year I offered James to move in with me, I have my own apartment which I inherited from my mother, it’s in a nice location in our town and is close to James’s job. He agreed and moved in the following month.
Half a year after moving in James fell ill out of the blue, he brushed it off at first saying it’s probably nothing but I convinced him to go see a doctor and have some tests done.
The test results came in and we were shocked to discover James is allergic to cats. Apparently, he was probably mildly allergic to cats all his life but since she was never exposed to them for a long period of time it was never discovered. Him being exposed to Misty for over a year is what made his allergies much worse.
I’ve talked with James about our plans for the future. I offered he could start taking anti-allergy medication (which I said I’ll pay for) but he refused saying she doesn’t want to swallow a pill every day so he can keep living at home, which is valid.
I then asked him when she’s going to move out. James looked at me confused so I explained that since he is living with Misty is what causes him health issues it’ll be better for him to move out.
James started arguing with me, claiming I’m ridiculous for suggesting he moves out over a cat. I told him I’m not going to re-home Misty under any circumstances, and offered he could move in again after Misty passes away eventually, but until then he have to find a different place to live in.
After arguing some more James left to sleep at his sisters place and I’ve been getting calls from mutual friends who caught wind of the situation, some were sympathetic while others called me heartless for preferring a dying pet over a living human.
I’m very conflicted over this whole situation and although I feel like I’m doing what’s right and my request isn’t unreasonable I’m afraid I might be wrong.