I got together with my boyfriend after JC and I am currently in my 3rd year uni. My boyfriend just got in for his first year last August (yes we survived ns!)
And I am so happy we get to hang out in school. At the same time, I am also meeting his new friends in school. Somehow, I do not have a good impression of them.. some of them are like to draw attention to themselves, divide the group into two, some being very immature.. I asked my boyfriend, why not hang out with other friends in school? After all, they are new friends and if things don’t work out, you can always move on. Don’t let the toxic people affect you. However he says they need to do projects together and academically they can do well together.
I find it difficult to hang out with these friends of his and I don’t like him hanging out with them too. What should I do???
Here are what netizens think:
- What should you do? Leave him alone. He already told you why he needs to hang out with them. Unless his actions directly affect your relationship with him, you can talk to him about it else leave it alone. He doesn’t need another mother. Should this relationship continue to progress, don’t try to mother him further too. I’ve seen this happen so many times. Treat him like he is incapable of making decisions or doing things on his own, don’t be surprised that you’ll be frustrated in the end and wonder why he’s acting like a man child.
- Walao. Things like this oso u wana control? I can foresee he might break up w u in future cz u will control who he wana be friends with. Survived ns nia so both of u are just 20yo, really long way to go. College and uni frens dont mean will still stay friends aft grad, u know this right? U say his uni mates are childish, i think u r d childish one here. Its very normal things like this happen and its still happening at work, if everyone oso u dun like, he nonid to live edi. As long his frens dont gamble, dont do drugs, dont do crimes can edi la, why u wana be so controlling? Mind ur own taichi please.
- Why are you trying to control who he can be friends with? Are you his mother? He’s already told you he needs to do projects with them, and they vibe well academically. He has the right to decide who he wants to be friends with. And the same goes for you. You don’t have to like every single one of his friends and he’s certainly not accountable to you about them.