I (31F) recently ROM-ed with my partner of 4 years. Since we are officially legally married already, we decided it was finally time to do the deed and consummate the marriage.
For context, I’ve always been very conservative about this. Before my husband, I had a few short flings (all under a year), but every time they suggested going all the way, I stuck to my principles to keep my v-card until after marriage. I literally broke up with one ex because he kept pressuring me and I refused to budge.
So naturally, I had super high expectations right? I thought it was going to be mind-blowing, full of fireworks and romance.
Fast forward to the actual night… bro, it was such a massive letdown. Not only did I not finish, but I was also genuinely shocked by his hardware size. It was… literally like a tic-tac? I was just staring at it inside thinking, “Is that it??” It felt like trying to park a mini cooper into a double-deck bus lot. Zero sensation.
Now I am sitting here filled with huge buyer’s remorse. If we had tested the water before signing the papers, I honestly don’t know if I would have chosen to spend the rest of my life with him. The worst part is imagining what I missed out on. Now I’ll never know what normal-sized machinery feels like, because if I go out and try other guys now, it’s considered adultery already. Really regret being so rigid with my “no special before marriage” rule last time.
Don’t get me wrong, my husband is an absolute angel in every other aspect. He treats me like a queen, very attentive, very nice. I know people will say I’m shallow for letting bedroom affairs affect a marriage when he’s a good guy. And yeah, I guess if I want to climax I can always rely on my trusty battery-operated friends… but still very sad right?
Is there any hope left for us? Anyone got suggestions for specific positions or techniques that work best for guys who are severely lacking in that department? Please help a sister out… 😢