Would like to clarify that yes, I am definitely able to buy my own Gucci bags, even Chanel, LV, Rolex and whatever.
But the point is, isn’t it much more practical to get the Gucci bag for proposal instead of a stupid bling (which he mentioned would be expensive but didn’t state the exact value), since I personally do not have a liking for diamonds.
I don’t need to have an expensive ring for proposal. So what’s the point of him buying me an expensive ring for me (which I will seldom wear)? And I will have to spend another $2k on the bag when he could have just gotten me the bag and maybe a ring for proposal that cost less than a thousand? Isn’t it much more cost saving?
What makes me rage the most is that, it doesn’t seem as though he is really saving for an “expensive ring” if he can turn down such a good deal of spending only $3k for a proposal.
As for myself, I don’t mind spending on the one I love, and I have bought him gifts like Sperry shoes, Fred Perry Polo tees etc on occasions. And my birthday? A small cake from him. Split hotel cost for staycation. I have mentioned that I understand he is a little stingy when it comes to money, and we have fought a few times over financial issues. Currently, we are also splitting on our dates even though he let me pay a little less. We have also come too far at this stage to breakup over our character differences, afterall we have already applied for flat 2 years back.
I just felt that his reply was a red flag and I highly doubt he’s really saving for expensive ring like he claimed.
We made an agreement to post this matter on this platform to see how the public will react to our different POVs. But ohwell, seems like most of the people think that choosing a cost saving method is wrong and my bf should dump me. So I guess I will be buying my own bag and wearing that “expensive” bling from him which I will be throwing aside after a few months of wearing it. Haha.