I recently dated a Singaporean guy and eventually he become my bf. He did pay for the first date and all.
But subsequently in the relationship, he did hint to split 50 50 and want me to take parts of my share. He send me home everytime initially , but after we get together, no more.
He say in Singapore, 80% of the relationship goes on dutch and 15% is guys pay all and 5% others. It is true? I wasnt from Singapore and he was the first Singaporean bf I have.
From my understanding, guy do pay for dates. But when in relationship, is it normally dutch? One meal alternatively? He wants equal contribution to our relationship. We had a fight over this and he gave in.
When we talk about family, he say he expect his wife to continue work after pregnancy because he think women will become shallow and obsolete if they don’t. Is this a common beliefs among the Singaporean? I don’t intend to be a housewife but taking out the option is another thing.
I know each relationship is unique and we are all dealing with different things. The objective is this post is just to understand the social norms Singaporean guys have. I am just confused that is my bf the norm or not.
My bf still treated me very well and love me a lot. He did pay for most of the date and I pay for some dates. He pay for the food, I pay for the drinks.
Netizens’ comments
- I think equality is very important! He should have a baby for each baby you pop out too, if not then very unfair sia.
- Well… As ladies we believe that we are capable of paying our own meals. However, we would want to date a guy who will pay for dates. We offer to pay and go on dutch is one thing. However, having gentleman traits is another. Especially is BF status.
And if the guy is stingy looking at everything 50-50 then is ok. Is a sign of not a long term partner.
So imagine married and we have to split 50-50 for all utilities, grocery, kids expenses and so on. Then we get ourselves a roommate and not husband. As will they split pregnancy with a 50-50? House chores with 50-50? Child mining with 50-50? Are we going to charge base on surrogate mother? Nanny? Maid? And split that 50-50 from there?
This is totally nonsense.
I agree that a family should shoulder expenses together but as a guy he should carry more portion of it too. As a lady we should also assist to carry some of the burden by paying some and taking responsibility of the household.
Otherwise there is no need to married if marriage is about 50-50. We could live better being single.