My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now, and I’ve always considered him to be a really good guy: thoughtful, loyal, and kind.
However, recently I’ve noticed his behavior has changed, and it’s making me really uncomfortable.
Whenever we’re in public, my boyfriend just can’t seem to stop openly staring at any random girls with big ‘chests’.
He’s not even subtle about it; he’ll just blatantly make eye contact with them and then look away when I catch him.
This has been happening more and more frequently, and it’s really starting to bother me.
I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just brushes it off as “no big deal.” But it is a big deal to me. It makes me feel like I’m not enough for him, or like he doesn’t find me attractive anymore.
He’s never been the type of person to ogle women in public like this, so it’s really confusing to me why he’s suddenly started doing it.
I know that it’s normal for guys to be attracted to other women, and I don’t expect him to only have eyes for me.
However, I do expect him to have the decency to not be so obvious about it when we’re out together. I don’t want him to make me feel like I’m invisible or like his actions are something that I should just accept.
I’ve tried to explain to him how uncomfortable this behavior makes me feel, but he still doesn’t seem to get it.
I just don’t understand why he would be so blatant about it when he knows how I feel. It’s really hurtful and it makes me feel like he’s not respecting me or our relationship.
At this point, I’m not sure what else I can do. I’ve talked to him about it multiple times, but he still hasn’t changed his behavior.
I love him and I want to make our relationship work, but this issue is really starting to take a toll on me. I’m not sure what else to do, but I know I can’t keep living like this.