Infatuation at work
Saw many posts about people catching feelings for their colleagues or friends despite being a relationship. Sparked an interest in me to post my story as well.
Im a F25 who is in a relationship with a M27 for about 4 years now.
Our relationship is great and we genuinely love each other. However, sometimes in July, a new colleague joined the company and we became acquinted due to a work project. Somehow, I was drawn to his charisma and wanted to get to know him more. We exchanged numbers due to work and that started a friendship.
He has a generally outgoing personality and he texts me a lot, almost every single day. Though I wouldn’t usually do that for male friends, I thought it will be ok since I like him as a person and we are colleagues (don’t want to make things weird too).
However, I soon find myself catching feelings and looking forward to his messages. He also came to mind more frequently. He once shared that I was his type and would date me if I was single. I have literal butterflies when I see him… but I am unsure about his feelings and never dared to ask about it.
It came to a point where I decided that I needed to do something about it.
Things like cutting back on the frequency of texts or simply not responding unless necessary. It was very difficult at first and the urge to act upon your feelings is real. But deep down in my heart, I knew that I love my bf and will never do anything to hurt him or jeopardise our relationship.
It took some time but the excitement of talking to someone new eventually fade and I stopped looking forward to his messages or seeing him. That’s when I realised that I was simply infatuated and not in love with this new person in my life.
Today, my relationship with my bf is still strong and we are looking to settle down very soon. No, he doesn’t know about this story and I did not share as I don’t wish to create unnecessary misunderstandings or unhappiness.
I just want to encourage those who might be going through what I went through. Infatuation and feelings will fade. Love is a choice. Make that choice daily. Establish healthy boundaries and be responsible. All these go a long way in building a happy long term relationship.