I’m 21 and I want to feel desirable but I can’t. I’ve been blessed with a nice face, body, personality but my private part is just awful.
I never really realized this until about two years ago when my ex told me it was gross, like meat flaps. But even after he said that I didn’t really pay any mind, until now.
I’m seeing someone new and all I can think about is that he’ll think my genital is gross. He’s really kind, so I know he won’t say anything out loud, but like every other guy, he watches adult videos.
I’ve seen those videos before and I know that all those girls have perfect private parts that don’t look anything like mine. I’m devastated at the thought that the guy I’m with will always long for one prettier than mine, because that’s what he’s been exposed to…
The past few days I have spent hours on the Internet looking at pictures and reading about labiaplasty. I know this sounds obsessive, and it is, but it’s the truth. I don’t know how to escape this overwhelming anxiety and insecurity. I have a lot of actual things to do during the day and I can’t be wasting more time on this, it’s stupid.
I’m only posting this because I could never say any of it out loud. I have always been a very confident and unbothered person, but lately something has just made me go down a hole. Lol pun not intended. But seriously though any kind words or advice would be greatly appreciated.
I realized that there might be young girls reading this. If that’s the case, I want you to know that this kind of insecurity is common, but ultimately unnecessary. Recognize that all of these comments say essentially the same thing: it doesn’t matter what your lady parts look like. All that matters is who you are. Be kind, educate yourself, and spend your time doing what makes you feel fulfilled.