Am I obligated to 100% believe anything my loved ones say about someone?
For example, say you have a bestfriend, and your bestfriend started to rant about person X, like “Omg do you know person X is such a b**ch. Person X is such a weirdo and has hurt me many times” And so on more general rants.
Based on the above example, are you obligated to 100% be on your bestfriend’s side? Serious question.
Cause if it’s me, I never will be 100% on my bestfriend side. Yes, I listen . But I don’t 100% believe. In other words, I don’t blindly believe. I’m not saying my bestfriend is a liar. I am inclined to believe my bestfriend, but as long as I don’t experience it from person X, did not witnessed such thing from person X, and no one else can verify the thing said about person X, then I won’t blindly believe. Especially when I don’t know person X at all. If I knew person X, that’ll be different story cause at least I can verify.
What I’ll do is, wait till the real truth comes out. Or, find out on person X’s side of the story without making it obvious, or find someone else who knew about person X and social engineered them to find out the truth. 99% of the time, your loved ones tend to overexaggerate their rant about anyone, and cherry pick the truth without admitting their wrongdoings in the ranted issues, all in the name of gossiping. Sure, person X can be wrong, but your loved ones are wrong too but they just don’t tell you. While seeking the truth, I made sure to gather concrete, undeniable proof.
And most people, will just blindly believe 100% all because the person ranting is their bestfriend / family / spouse etc. Yes, I’ve lost many loved ones all cause I don’t 100% believe them. They got mad when I found concrete proof that they’re wrong too in the issues they ranted about someone.
Thing about me, I don’t care who you are. You can be my bestfriend, my spouse, my siblings, my parents etc. If you’re wrong, you’re wrong. I’m not gonna support you and blindly believe you just cause you’re considered my loved ones. A real friend is the one that tells you when you’re wrong.
Not sorry at all, but I don’t like nor want to slander people when I don’t know the whole truth. Everyone should start learn to seek the truth rather than believing in the lies.