I’m afraid I’m going to have to settle for an ugly person
So basically, science has found an overwhelming majority of the time people of the same level of attractiveness will end up together in long term relationships.
Ugly people will end up with ugly people, beautiful people will end up with beautiful people, and the plains and pretties in between, right?
While I’m not what would be considered conventionally attractive or the beauty standard, I do consider myself to be pretty.
I have been called beautiful by other people, but had my fair share of polite declines as well. I have a lingering fear that, while I don’t believe I’m unattractive, that I’m not attractive enough to have a partner that I’m attracted to.
I’ve been in “situationships” with people I found attractive before, but would they choose me, exclusively, long term?
They didn’t attempt to, by any means. I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m only getting older. I’ve known a couple spinsters in my life and I wonder if I’ll be one of them too.
I would really like to spend my life with someone, but I can’t imagine having a closeness and intimacy with someone I don’t find beautiful inside and out.
Netizens’ comments
Instead of caring so much about appearance, why don’t you focus on how the person you’re in a relationship with treats you?
I don’t know where you came across this strange notion beauty = long relationships/hapiness, but as someone in their 40s, I can confidently say that beauty does not sustain a marriage or long relationship.
A long-lasting relationship is only sustainable if both individuals in the romantic relationship are respectful, responsible, empathetic, and share compatible beliefs and morals.
Otherwise, people may end up divorcing or breaking up if they are too different , feels taken for granted or disrespected in the relationship.
healthy relationship goes beyond physical attractiveness and extends to emotional connection and mutual respect. I highly recommend you to not waste your time after beauty unless you do not mind to get disappointed, sad or frustrated in your life.