A girl shared her story about how she wants to dress in a way she likes but is afraid of men staring or making comments at her.
She describes her situation as if she is the only woman in the world.
Here is the story:
It’s so wild to me that even though none of these is inherently sexual, and of being sexy isn’t your intention, men will STILL find ways to sexualize you and be creepy.
Like with crop tops even the tiniest bit of STOMACH can “turn men on” and they can’t control themselves for some reason. With short skirts, the sight of thighs and legs can make men be creepy. This is why I don’t wear short skirts that are too short and I always short under them, same with dresses. I like skirts and dresses that come up a bit above the knees, as well as long float skirts and dresses.
Men seem to think women dress for their pleasure. We DON’T. Heck, I’m straight but I dress to impress other women and also just because I enjoy my sense of fashion. I don’t dress so that men can be creepy.
I’m so sick of having to suppress my true fashion sense because I’m scared of how weird men might react. I don’t have forever to dress how I want.
The weather is hot now, it’s hot out and I want to look cute and pretty in skirts and dresses and crop tops but it’s because of men that I’m scared to when I shouldn’t have to be. Ffs it’s 2022. We shouldn’t be primitive still, but apparently, a lot of men still are.
I know that men are more “visual” but that’s no excuse to behave the way they do. Nothing is an excuse to behave that way. You don’t see women being creepy to a man who’s out without his shirt on. Or homosexual women being creepy to other women. I’m sure there are women out there who are like that and that’s wrong too, but it’s usually men who are that way to women who look more “revealing” whatever tf that means.
We ALL have a stomach. We ALL have thighs and legs. Nothing inherently sexual about any of that. I just don’t understand, for the life of me, why men can’t control themselves. Women simply can’t exist in peace and naturally feel safe.
With men, we are ALWAYS in fight or flight mode. It’s just so exhausting. As proud as I am to be a woman, sometimes I wish was anything but.
Here are what netizens think:
- You think too much, a creep can make things sound wrong no matter what you wear.
- Aiya what a over reacting girl, kpkb don’t wear la. Just stay at home and look in the mirror all day.
- It is obviously more likely when it’s less clothing or whatever is deemed “promiscuous” but unfortunately that’s just how it is. As far as safety goes that’s not necessarily a man problem but a societal problem. It’s the fault of those victim blamers who think that a lack of modesty is what makes you unsafe, as opposed to the living breathing scum of the earth who just have evil thoughts and do evil things regardless of what you wear