i’m sick of being the “funny” friend
i (f22) have always been a bit of a clown. i love funny things and making people laugh. i say a lot of things that make people say, “you’re wild for saying that,” or, “that was out of hand” but it’s never without a laugh.
most of my jokes are self-deprecating and definitely shocking because I make people laugh at my own expense, but people love that about me.
recently, i don’t really love that about me. again, a lot of my jokes are self-deprecating and half of the time aren’t even really jokes, but people have a riot with them every single time.
sometimes when people are trying not to pee themselves from laughing, i feel like crap because whatever i said felt more like i was just being honest than cracking a joke.
i’m genuinely miserable and just being real. if it’s funny, i guess that’s nice that it can bring other people some joy? idk.
everyone thinks i’m funny even if i don’t try to be. a lot of people close to me say i’m the funniest person they know, and although it’s flattering, i feel like i’m never taken seriously. it makes it hard for me to take myself seriously. :/
Netizens’ comments
- I know the feeling. I was always considered the outgoing fun loving friend who would do anything to make others happy. Which somewhat is true, but it gets me wondering how many people were really friends and see that I also hated myself.
- Yup, I felt that was the only reason they would be friends with me. The part about the self deprecating part. It made them feel like they were better than me so they would actually jump in after a while. Finally, I decided I wanted to be me and they all were gone. They never wanted me to be around because I stopped. It hurt a lot because I felt so used. It took years but I like the me I am.
- It’s like “do any of these mfs actually care about me and how I’m doing or do they just like me cuz I make them laugh?” Kinda feels degrading
- I’ve been exactly where you are, too. I’ve found that the situation ultimately lands on your own shoulders. Your friends like to laugh, and you’ve proven to be hilarious. Now, all you need to do is shift your focus. Essentially, you need to develop different material.
I should also say, remember that you don’t HAVE to be the funny friend. If you’re not enjoying the dynamic of your friend group, you can be somebody else. If they aren’t down with that, then they were never really your friends in the first place.