Genuinely curious on how people find good quality partners because all the guys I have dated have been super insecure, controlling, or projecting their issues onto me despite my efforts to reassure and be there for them. I understand that no one is perfect and that I am flawed too but sometimes the weight all of my ex-partners put onto me gets too much which leads us to break up….
So just wanted to know how people find partners that are confident and just have trust in them ? I seem to attract insecure guys that use me to seek validation and to sort their issues which is okay once in a while but it really does get too much on my end bc i too need reassurance and someone to rely on as well
Ive tried dating someone a year older, same background as me, similar interests but it just never works out and im getting tired of dating already but i do want to settle down soon and have children…. are people gatekeeping some secret to finding healthy relationships ?
just to add-on, i really do put in my 100% into the relationship and reassure my bfs to build up trust and not do things they dont want me to be doing and really listening to them all the time but the more i do, the more controlling and insecure they all get i dont know why ! from controlling my clothing to controlling who i meet, what i eat, everything that can be controlled, they will control !
conclusion is, where can i find someone that will know how to appreciate me…..