I GET NO ALONE TIME
My boyfriend (28M) and I (22F) have been together for 3 years now, and as the title states, I have z e r o amount of alone time.
I work, I come home, and as soon as I come home he gets off of his video games and we spend the day laying in bed. If I get up to want to do one of my hobbies, he complains I don’t pay attention to him.
7/7 days of the week I try to spend time with him, do absolutely NOTHING for hours while I watch him play his game and talk to him about it, I try to initiate intimacy in bed as much as possible, I’ve taken us out on dates every. Single. Weekend. for the past few months.
I’m the only one working, so we can’t really afford to get out and do much during the week, but i haven’t been able to do any of my hobbies, go anywhere, or do anything by myself for any period of time in over a month now.
Even when he was working it was maybe for an hour or two 3 days of the week. the few things I’ve tried to initiate doing on my own; he suggests we do it together and if I mention wanting to do them by myself, he gets extremely hurt and says I need to give him a chance to show me patience and kindness.
(ALOT of things we’ve tried to do together have not gone smoothly, especially if he’s not in control).
WHAT DO I DO IM GOING CRAZY LOL I love him to death but personal time is healthy and he gets 8-9 hours everyday and, but I’m not allowed ANY and I don’t want to hurt him by needing that, but it does, how do I get through respectfully.
Netizens’ comments
- What do you find attractive about a nearly 30 year old who is unemployed and codependent?
- So, what exactly do you get out of this relationship? Because it sounds like a job with no pay. There’s a reason why a 25yo dates a 19 year old and it’s because he’s looking for a bang maid. Which is what you are at this point