Im dating this guy for close to a year, he rarely initiate saying that he loves or misses me.
In fact he almost never says it, even though I did tell him before that I would appreciate if he could say it more often. He says its just not in him to do so.
It also seems that he isn’t going to let us progress to the next stage.
I enjoy spending time with him as it’s always fun, but I can’t help but realize there may not be any future in this. It feels like he sees this as a “Just for fun” kind of thing.
How do I initiate a conversation with him about progressing further or meeting my emotional needs without sounding demanding or needy?
I also have thoughts of whether I should move on, and perhaps have the opportunity to meet someone who are more generous with their words and willing to put in the effort to speak the same love language.
Here are what netizens think:
- Easy. Just ask him the 3 most dreaded words: What are we?
- If he’s evasive or can’t explain himself, you’ll have the answer. Move on.
- You sound like you’re his fwb. If you want more, just move on. The right one will be interested in meeting your needs. The wrong one will waste your time and send you mixed signals and leave you confused. Your gut instinct is telling you what it is. Don’t ignore it.
- What’s wrong with being friends for a while before talking about marriage etc? I was friends with my wife for more than 6 years before we eventually tied the knot. This year is our 23rd wedding anniversary, so you can guess how long we have known each other.