Me (24F) and my bf (22m) have been together for almost a year now. When we got together, he told me that he was a virgin, which is totally fine with me. I told him, I wasn’t. That was the end of the conversation for a while.
But whenever I mention an ex, or someone I used to sleep with, he gets uncomfertable and doesn’t want to hear that. He has told me, he doesn’t like hearing about my body count, and I respect that.
Here is the thing thats been bothering me, the topic of past relations came up, and he asked me with how many men I’ve been with, before him. I said, around 5 or 6. And he was kind of relieved. I asked why, and he said that if it was more than 10 men, he would reconsider our relationship, because it mattered to him with how many men I’ve slept, before I even knew him. And he was going on, how there were studies showing that most men, thought the same. And how men were very territorial, and he then explained it to me, by using the used car analogy…
(If a car is being passed down from owner to owner, you wouldn’t want to have it anymore, because you dont know where its been and its been used so much.)
I was speechless and couldnt help but laugh akwardly.
I talked about it with some of my guy friends, and they were equally confused. Truth be told, those friends do not really like him, for his political views.
I have not talked about it again with my bf, Im not scared that he will get angry, but I am scared that this will cause a rift between us. I dont want to lose him, he is a very sweet and caring man. And I love him very much… Another reason why I havent talked to him about this yet, is we only see each other on the weekends. We call on Discord, but Id rather have this conversation face to face.
I dont know what will happen, and Im a bit scared…