I (26F) have been dating an amazing guy G (49M) for the past 8 months. He has a razor sharp wit, impeccable manners and is always the life of the party. Although he’s no Tom Cruise in terms of looks, he is in pretty good shape for his age and is always well-groomed and put together (definitely my cup of tea!).
He is also very successful career-wise as the APAC head of operations in a big MNC. He has made me as happy as a girl can be in the time we have been together, and I feel like he could be the Mr Darcy to my Elizabeth, the Richard Gere to my Julia Roberts.
G has always said that he’s a family man, and he is 100% certain that he would want to have children of his own (at least 3!). I know he loves children as he is the favourite uncle of all his nieces and nephews, and spends a fair bit of time helping them with schoolwork and taking them out to fun places. However, there’s just one thing that I’ve been puzzling over- if G seems like such a great catch and if he wants to start his own family so badly, why is he still unmarried? Weirdly, he doesn’t seem to be in too much of a hurry although he’s almost approaching his 50s. He has given me no reason not to trust him, so I believe him when he says he’s never had any children of his own or been married before.
Should I approach him directly to ask him why he’s never married and has no children?
I don’t want to make him uncomfortable or come off as rude, and I definitely don’t want to scare him off, but I just find it hard to believe that such a charming man has never found himself a bride. Should I give him more time and wait to see if he opens up to me by himself?
We’ve joked off-hand a few times about what our children might be like and the kind of house we’d like to buy together, but perhaps they were said in jest, idk. I hope I’m not getting too carried away, but if he asked me to marry him today, I’d honestly say yes in a heartbeat. Dear reader, pray tell- am I being foolish?