Okay so I met this dude while I was at lunch at some restaurant at Orchard. I’m eating my lunch and he walks up to me offering his number.
Of course, I say yes. He is a tall Swedish-looking man who works out and has good taste in movies (he’s seen Breathless y’all and he HATES the protagonist).
Anyway, we’re dating and all and I guess he’s my boyfriend now. But it makes me so uncomfortable how he wants to spend all this money on me.
He works in energy trading so he makes a lot of money. He has a high-rise penthouse, luxury cars, and so many antiques around his penthouse. And he always insists on buying things for me.
We were at Taka yesterday and I saw this dress I liked. It was like $400 so I got “yeah I’m getting this.” When we go to the counter i pull out my card to pay for it but this man pulls out his AmEx black card and goes “babe I got this.”
Like mf, I totally had this.
I don’t mind being spoiled but like I feel like it is too early in the relationship for him to be spoiling me like this. He already pays for my gym membership which is really nice but like I never asked for this and i have a lot of money of my own. I can take care of myself. How do I make him realize he is making me uncomfortable? How do I communicate this to him?
Is this love bombing?
Here is what Netizens say:
- Be grateful and say thank you, its not like u are 100% sure the relationship is going to last forever. You are saving money and investing yourself more everytime he pays for you. Pride is not worth anything. Tell me how much is worth per kilo?
- Just talk with him. Tell him that you appreciate everything he’s doing/ trying to do but he doesn’t need to buy your love. Or tell him to use his money on small things that you might like a little more, like flowers, your favorite candy etc. another idea is whoever plans the date pays. So if you plan the date you pay and vise verse. Either way you should talk to him and try and find some middle ground. Hope this helps 🙂