Clingy co-worker who just won’t give you space
I’ve this coworker who is extremely clingy and I’m 100% sure he is not interested in me. Our roles are completely different so seldom will there be a need for us to work together. But… He follows me everywhere I go, wants to know my whereabouts, even when I go to the washroom.
I’m an introvert and usually eats on my own but he insisted in joining me. He buys me meals without even checking if I’ve my own meals, using his passive aggressive methods to get me to eat the food he bought. When I reject politely, he gets upset and complains that I’m picky and being difficult. To avoid him, I quietly leave the office for lunch without telling him. Somehow he found out and was really upset.
Recently he got so comfortable that he makes inappropriate jokes about me and other colleagues. He jokes about relationships, our clients and work. To make it stop, I gave him a very stunt look and he was offended.
He blames me for not paying attention to him. He treats me like his secretary and asks me for information that he can find on Google. Recently has started hovering my desk to see what I’m doing too. It is getting too much…it might sound silly but I feel tired going to work because of him.
How do I stop this?
Here are what netizens think:
- Pretty sure he is interested in you
- Check yourself in the mirror to see if ur forehead darken recently. Also check ur credit card transaction to see if the lunch ‘he’ bought was actually paid by yourself and ask your other colleagues if they see him or know who are talking about.. U can never be too sure these days
- Complain to HR alone is of no use. Speak to him and tell him how u felt. Warned him that you will go to ur boss, his boss and HR if this continues.
- He likes you,to stop this, hire a boyfriend for a day(make sure looks hunky) and tell him, that’s your boyfriend,he will back away